We have all dealt with the issue of playing time at some point in our career. Whether as a player, coach, or parent. I've dealt with it personally as a player back in high school and college. I've also have had to advice clients on this subject.
First step is a parent, player, athlete meeting... Communication is key
The coaches should provide legitimate, well thought out reasons as to why an athlete not playing as much as you think they should.
Here are some reasons that I have heard coaches give over the years:
- There is a better athlete in front of you who will get most of the play time
- The athlete is an underclassman competing with juniors and seniors for playtime
- You aren't playing/practicing to your potential
- Grades are not up to par
- The coach wants you playing in a different position
The feedback from the coach should never be personal. Coaches should relay these messages delicately to respect the athlete and their family. The family should take heed to the feedback.
After this meeting, I've seen players get their desired playtime. I've seen athletes continue to not get play time. I've seen athletes transfer because of these issues.
The meeting is for clarity. The best thing to do is to bring attention to the subject. Communication is the key. Coaches understand that every athlete wants to play. Everyone has to be on the same page so that changes and decision can be made on both ends.
As for me, things are well. It's Mother's Day weekend. One of my gifts to my mom is this poem. Hope she likes it.
5 Reason My Mom Will Always Have My Heart
- She gave birth to me
- Taught me wrong from right
- Gave me two beautiful sisters
- She made sure that education was key
- She is always willing to sacrifice for me
Early on in my life my mom assumed the role of teacher, boss, nurturer. At 23, my mom is becoming a friend. She doesn't tell me what to do anymore. She sort of lends her opinion on the subject. She guides me. Believe it or not, I'm still working to fulfill the vision she had for her son. An educated, competent, independent man.
As we both get older, I start to value our new relationship. As a 23 year old, I'm starting to be able to give back to her. I owe her so much. I say it all of the time, but I love how she raised me. I love who I am becoming. Everyone isn't so blessed. My mom is a gift from God that I am grateful for.
My mother's love is forever. Bears all frustration or struggle. Love sweet like sugar.
Ma, I'd like to see you start to live life for your enjoyment. You have the best years of your life ahead of you. Go have some fun. You've made so many sacrifices for myself and my sisters. Jada (my youngest sister) is graduating from high school in a month. Take some time to think about how you are going to spend your free time now. No more games, no more practice , no more school to stress about.
I want to see you find things that bring you joy. Everyday. I feel like your life was consumed by us. Our wants, our needs. I want to see you find your second wind of life.
Teresa Victoria Williams
Patient
Teacher
Outgoing
Committed
Leader
Loving
Beautiful
Pretty Hair
Affectionate
I love you ma,
See you Sunday
Thanks for reading everyone,
- Josh
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